Avoidance or Agitation: Why We Amplify What We Avoid

Here’s the thing: what you avoid doesn’t just go away—it sits in the corner, does push-ups, and comes back stronger.

That conversation you dodged? It’s living rent-free in your head. That feeling you shoved down? It’s leaking out as sarcasm, silence, or snapping at the people who least deserve it. Avoidance feels like peace in the moment, but it’s really just a delay tactic. The problem doesn’t disappear; it marinates—and then it shows up louder, messier, and harder to ignore.

We like to tell ourselves we’re “keeping the peace” by avoiding conflict. But peace built on silence is a ticking bomb. And agitation? That’s just avoidance coming back wearing a louder outfit.

The truth is, emotions don’t vanish when ignored—they multiply. What you won’t face will eventually own you. The only way out is through: naming the thing, having the awkward talk, letting yourself feel the thing you don’t want to feel.

Uncomfortable? Absolutely. But discomfort is the price of growth.

Avoidance keeps you stuck. Honesty sets you free. And freedom? That’s worth every ounce of awkward.